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All of us have emotional preconceptions and assumptions.
They are reinforced and fine tuned by our experiences of life, be they traumatic, disciplined or consistent. Our
brains are designed so that the emotional patterning centers mature while we are still in utero, whereas our
rational centers begin to mature at about 4 years old and finish maturing through adolescence to early adulthood.
Non- rational emotional patterning is therefore a design feature!! Most of us
have some common preconceived ideas, historically these were things like the earth was flat, and we couldn`t fly.
Now they are more likely to be about how we structure our lives.
Why do over 3 million people in Sydney need to get up and go to work at the same
time, every day and cause massive traffic congestion? Why do we think this is normal? Is it normal? Does it work for
us? Why do we keep doing it?
As well as commonly held patterns we all have a few family specific ones and, a
number of which are unique to our experiences of life. Because they are a design feature, they are supposed to be
there. Most people seem to presume not and try to weed them out or ignore them and hope they will go away. However,
a big property purchase looms. Our money is involved. For most people our emotional patterns will be triggered and
we will react. The issue isn`t that we have a reaction, the issue is the reaction becomes our focus and we try to
fix our upset. In the process we forget to focus on the property transaction!
Property transactions are very complex procedures with finance, legal, vendor and
purchaser coordinating to a finite window. Much expertise and sensitive negotiation can be involved. There are few
opportunities we participate in with a more immediate effect on our bank balance, cash flow and, for many, sense of
self. This is not a good time to be distracted!!
What are the sorts of things that distract us?
We could look at many behaviours, however we get simpler pictures if we examine
motive, sometimes conscious, sometimes hidden a little deeper. A client might be worried about how they are
perceived. Property becomes a tool to prop up their perception of themselves through others thinking more highly of
them. These are often people who love to drop property reports into general conversation. Hoping to snare some self
esteem through others` reactions.
These people buy for prestige rather than wealth creation. They want an address and
landmark that their mother-in-law, social set and the boss approves of and almost envies. Glossy prestige marketing
lures them to overpriced deals that fail to capitalize to expectations. They may go sour on the concept of gaining
wealth through property and find some other way to prop us their image. However, did they ever really look at
property with open eyes to examine the business of creating wealth?
Other clients are more concerned about doing it the right way. Hence every detail
must be managed. They find professionals who do things their way and then collude with them about the rightness of
the way they do things - a very circular way to complement yourself! Because of the level of detail required, due
diligence takes on gargantuan proportions. Many deals are missed. Costs rise as professional are paid for their
expertise.
In their frustration, they may find a guru, suspend disbelief and follow their
advice. Often this is more in line with their perception of the gurus qualities than the particulars of the property
acquisition. Did they ever really go to find property or were they looking for the right way and property was just a
thing to do to find it?
These two examples sound extreme and yet are very common. Money is one of our great
human experiences. It draws out of us unknown or unrealized assumptions about who we think we are in relation to
money. Some of this is great and some of it is self limiting. To be in the business of wealth creation, wealth
management, asset retention and cash flow management we need to be willing to make our property business the
priority and give up a few of our emotionally patterned preconceived ideas. This is not a job for the faint hearted.
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